This is a story to put things into perspective for anyone out there with a dream that they are not turning into reality.
For the record, I am a BIG dreamer. When one dream comes true or I lose interest, there are five more waiting in the wings. I get this honestly from my mother who is also a visionary. The difference between her and I is simple. She raised me to believe I could do anything despite the world saying otherwise, and despite her having different beliefs for herself.
So here I am... this week I told Facebook about all of the things I am doing and about this big dream I have. Last week I launched phase one of that dream, theloomlife.com. I am happy, proud, confident and grateful, among other things. When I went to bed last night, I remembered where I was this time last year and suddenly felt nauseous. I almost removed the post from Facebook for fear that my post might cause someone else to feel the way I did a year ago.
Hear me when I say this. I HAVE HELP AND SUPPORT! I AM NOT DOING THIS ALONE.
This dream of making a website and business to share all of the things that make me feel better is not really new. It has had other forms... remember the travel website, photography website and family website I created in the past? What is new are my beliefs. I believe I can do this. I believe I should do this. I believe that I am capable of helping others heal, laugh, live and fulfill their dreams. I believe that I am worthy to share the stories other creators and entrepreneurs!
These are the beliefs I have now that I want you to see, hear and feel...
I BELIEVE I CAN HAVE HELP
I BELIEVE I/IT CAN BE IMPERFECT AND SEEN
I BELIEVE I AM ENOUGH RIGHT NOW
HELP
So what had me upset last night? I don't want to contribute to the idea that we can or should conquer the world on our own. That is what I believed for years. I am starting a business. I am doing everything. Nobody else can do it the way I do it. OTHER WOMEN ARE DOING IT AND KICKING ASS ON THEIR OWN.
That last sentence is a lie that I have told myself most of my life. Successful people are not doing it alone. They have support and people!
Rewind to last year when I signed on to be a health coach for a company I believed in and had been a member of for 2 years. Before you read on, please understand I think it is a great company, with a solid program and good mission. Becoming a coach seemed like a great way to meet other women in health and wellness, and a way to propel my ideas forward with an already established women owned company. I also personally knew women who were killing it with their business within the company. I wanted to be killing it too.
In the recruitment sessions for coaches, they had other women who were in many different situations come on to tell how successful they have been even while working full time, raising families, etc. It was perfect! I could do it all.
It is important to note that before I finished my training, we went into Covid lockdown. Life got really hard. We all remember. A few friends signed up with me, but honestly who the fuck wanted to track their food and count macros? I am not even going to share all of the limiting beliefs that crept up for me at that time. Maybe later... What I do want to share is what I found out a few months into this when I was feeling like a huge failure.
Spoiler: they had help!
As I struggled to get one person to coach AND/OR follow the program myself, the company was posting the numbers and success stories of the top coaches. How in the hell was anyone getting new clients in April of 2020? How were they homeschooling, creating perfect instagram pictures, beautiful food images, or creating anything? I was just buying $200 sweatsuits and watching TikTok!
In June of 2020 I was on a training call when reality set in. Top trainers often have assistants and they were sharing ways to get help. It suddenly made sense. I wasn't inadequate or weak, I just didn't have help or support.
Why did I write this?
I do believe that anyone can make their dream a reality, but I don't believe we have to do it alone. I have help now. It allows me to live life the way I am telling people to live (most of the time).
Where am I getting help right now?
Life coaching
Writing/content (Thank you Maeby!!!)
Social media
Business consulting
Website design
Videography
Accounting
Collaborations
Friends who are business owners
Experts who I trust that want to contribute
An amazing 10 year old photographer
Driving help for the kids a couple days a week
My mom who continues to tell me that I can do anything
What is different now?
I am also creating theloomlife.com in alignment with my values, my health and wellness beliefs and in a way that feels authentic for ME.
Can you do it too?
I believe you can. Your path will not look like mine, but by looking at those who have gone before us, we can learn and believe in our own dreams. If someone else can do, then you can too!
In the works...
I want to help others by sharing this journey and the research I collect along the way, so the ENTREPRENEUR page of theloomlife.com will be home to resources and research for new business owners, stories of my journey (including the mistakes), and stories of entrepreneurs who have already done the things or are further along in the process.
If you have a story to share on theloomlife.com that you believe will inspire others, please send an email to youareenough@theloomlife.com
Thank you for sharing!